Has anyone ever wondered why it’s considered back luck for a bride and groom to see each other before the wedding?
I’ve always found it interesting how we’ve engrained traditions into our lives and even impose them on others without really knowing their origins and the reasons behind the origin. On a real though, have you ever asked yourself why the bride has to throw the bouquet over her head? Or, why white gowns are the traditional symbol and not purple ones? What’s with the veil? Why oh why did we ever freeze the wedding cake for a year before we could eat it?
But I’m deviating… back to the subject of not seeing each other before the ceremony. What is that about anyway? So you’ve known this person for years, and in most cases these days, you’ve also been living with him for a while now, and yet… your worst luck will come about because you had the audacity of allowing your groom to see you in your wedding gown before the ceremony? If you don’t mind my candid question, but is that luck not already a bit tainted by that old “no sex before marriage” sin you’ve already broken? Maybe I’m the only one who thinks Carry could have saved herself and Big a ton of stress if they had just arranged a little private meeting before the ceremony in the Sex and the City movie…
Anyway, so where does this tradition come from and why was it created and why do many of us still abide by its rules to date?
During the time when arranged marriages were custom, the betrothed couple wasn’t allowed to see each other before the wedding at all. The wedding symbolized a business deal between two families, and a father would have been pleased for his daughter to marry a man from a rich, land-owning family. But he also feared that if the groom met the bride before the wedding and thought she wasn’t attractive, he’d call off the wedding, casting shame onto the bride and her family. Therefore, it became tradition that the bride and groom were only allowed to meet at the wedding ceremony so that the groom did not have the opportunity to change his mind. And that veil the bride wears? Its original purpose was also to keep the groom from finding out what the bride looked like until the last possible minute, when it was too late to back out of the transaction.
Now: Although arranged marriages are no longer common, most brides still don’t want their groom to see them all done up before the wedding. Many believe it makes the day more exciting and memorable and many others do not even know why they do it…
So bride to be…my take on the whole thing is that it is up to you and your handsome Prince. After all, a marriage is a union between two whole people who have the right to define and design the character of their union by what is important to THEM! If your boo is as Zulu and stubborn as mine, then you might wanna hold back from too many suggestions that deviate from traditions. But, if he’s more liberal then go for it! The added bonus is that you can take your formal pictures pre-ceremony when everyone is freshly done-up. Talk about it before the big day arrives and find out what makes the most sense for you!